Cair Sex Therapy
Sexuality. Growth. Connection. Healing.
Compassionate Sex Therapy and Relationship Counselling
At some point, many of us face big questions about sex, intimacy, and relationships. You might be exploring your sexuality, navigating kinks, coming out, or rethinking what you want in a partnership. These questions can feel exciting and overwhelming, especially when shaped by shame, trauma, or cultural messages. But you don’t have to explore it alone.
At Cair Sex Therapy in Vancouver, I offer a supportive space to unpack these important topics. As a queer sex therapist, my work is trauma-informed, culturally sensitive, and affirming of queer and sex worker communities. Whether you’re seeking individual or couples therapy, this is a space where you can show up fully as yourself.
A Different Kind of Therapy
Rooted in Allyship
Cair Sex Therapy is rooted in the belief that good therapy is about allyship. That means listening closely, staying curious, and offering care that honors the nuances of your identity rather than flattening them. It means understanding how systems like racism, homophobia, transphobia, whorephobia, and stigma around kink or non monogamy can impact mental health, relationships, and sexuality.
Depathologizing
One of the ways I practice is by de-pathologizing the work. I don’t see you as a diagnosis or a collection of issues to fix. I see you as a whole person with a story, shaped by relationships, culture, and larger systems that impact your sense of wellbeing. We’ll absolutely tend to what’s feeling hard, but not from a place of “what’s wrong with you.” My hope is that you feel met as a human first, not reduced to a problem.
Sex Work Allied
A lot of therapy spaces either ignore sex work or approach it from a place of stigma. That can make it hard to feel safe opening up. I’m intentional about creating a space where sex workers can come to therapy without fear of judgment or being misunderstood. You deserve care that respects your work, understands the realities you navigate, and supports you as a whole person, not as a stereotype.
Collaboration
Collaboration is also central to how I practice. I believe therapy should feel like something you actively have a say in, not something that’s done to you. Your voice, preferences, and pace matter. We’ll talk openly about what feels helpful, what doesn’t, and adjust along the way. My hope is that the direction and tools we use feel empowering and supportive, so you leave sessions feeling more grounded in your own agency, not dependent on mine.
Services
Sex Therapy
Explore your sexual identity, build a stronger connection with your sexuality, and deepen your understanding of desire, intimacy, and your sexual self.
Relationship Counselling
Shift from conflict to collaboration and connection. Deepen empathy, repair relationship wounds, and build a more intimate, shared sex life.
Sexual Trauma Counselling
Therapy Values
Accountability
There is always space for honest feedback and repair. Therapy should feel safe and real. That means I show up with care, take responsibility when needed, and model the kind of secure relationships we’re working toward.
Anti-Oppresive
Therapy that is rooted in sex-positive anti-oppressive values and shaped by intersectional feminist thinking. I do my best to name systems of harm, reflect on my own biases, and create a space where all parts of you are welcome.
Pleasure Equity
Pleasure is a right not a reward. In sex therapy, we’ll explore what feels good for you, and push back on the cultural or systemic messages that say pleasure isn’t for everyone. You have the right to feel good in your body, in ways that feel affirming, and truly yours.
Attachment-Oriented
I show up in therapy as securely and consistently as I can because healing happens in safe relationships. I believe that building secure attachment, with yourself and others, is a powerful step toward feeling more connected and whole.
