Blog
Here are my latest blog posts.
Why Can’t I Orgasm When I’m Anxious? A Sex Therapist Explains
For something that’s supposed to feel good, sex can bring up a lot of stress. Especially when anxiety is part of the picture, pleasure can feel distant, and orgasms might seem frustratingly out of reach. If that sounds familiar, you’re definitely not alone. In my work...
Dissociating Out Of Your Sex Life
If you’ve ever found yourself feeling checked out during sex, disconnected from your body, or unsure what you actually like or want, you’re not alone. For many people, dissociation quietly shows up in their sexual lives without being named. It can feel confusing,...
Shifting Sexual Performance To Pleasure
Sex is often talked about as something spontaneous, effortless, and natural. But for many people, sex can feel more like a performance than a shared experience. Instead of tuning into your own body, pleasure, and connection, you might find yourself focusing on how you...
Why Anxiety Messes With Sex
Let’s be real, sex isn’t just about the body. It’s also about the brain. And when your brain is stuck in anxious overdrive, it can be tough to stay connected, relaxed, or even aroused during sex. Whether you're worrying about “doing it right,” lasting long enough,...
When Trauma Makes Sexual Desire Feel Complicated
Sexual trauma can impact more than just the moment it happened. For many people, it ripples into how they relate to their body, their sense of safety, and their experience of sexual desire. If you’ve noticed a shift in your sexual desire after trauma, you’re not...
Why Scheduling Sex Isn’t as Unsexy as It Sounds
Let’s be real that the idea of scheduling sex can sound a little boring. Isn’t sex supposed to be spontaneous, in-the-moment, and full of sparks? Sometimes, sure. But if you’ve ever been in a long-term relationship, had a packed calendar, or just felt totally...
Consensual Exhibitionism: Being Seen, Feeling Free
Let’s talk about something that many people find exciting, but don’t always talk about openly: consensual exhibitionism. This refers to the act of being intentionally seen or watched in a sexual or sensual context - not as a shock tactic, but as a source of pleasure,...
How Common Are Sexual Fantasies
Pretty much everyone has them. In fact, research shows that 90–97 % of people report having sexual fantasies. Fantasies are one of the most common sexual experiences across the general population. Fantasies come in many shapes and themes. Some of the more frequently...
Mindfulness for Sex: Why It Helps and How to Start
If you’ve ever found yourself distracted during sex or worrying about how you’re performing, you’re not alone. Many people find their minds racing when they want to be fully present. Mindfulness can help bring you back to your body and make intimacy feel more...
The Importance of Talking About Sex
Talking about sex can bring up a mix of feelings such as curiosity, excitement, nervousness, even fear. Many couples want to talk about sex more openly but aren’t sure where to start. Maybe you’ve been together for years and things feel a bit routine, or maybe you...
