About Me
Meet Your Sex Therapist
Hi there! I’m Daniel Oommen (they/them) – a registered clinical counsellor and certified sexologist. I offer sex therapy, relationship counselling, and trauma therapy grounded in inclusive, trauma-informed, and compassionate care. Whether you’re navigating various issues like low desire, painful sex, vaginismus, infidelity, sexual trauma, exploring kink, or working through relationship challenges, I’ll be there with you helping you build confidence in your sexuality, identity, and relationships.
My Approach to Therapy
Most of us want to feel seen and met with warmth, and that’s what I aim to offer. I show up with compassion, authenticity, humour, and curiosity, and approach therapy as a collaborative, holistic process. We’ll move at a pace that feels right for you, using evidence-based tools to support meaningful and lasting change.
Communities I Support
As a queer, polyamorous, non-binary person of color, I offer queer-affirming and sex work-affirming therapy for clients in the LGBTQ2S+, BIPOC, and sex work communities. While I’m especially passionate about supporting folks from these communities, I also work with people outside of them who value inclusive, affirming, and anti-oppressive care.
What Drew Me to Sex and Relationship Therapy
I’ve been drawn to understanding relationships for as long as I can remember. At the heart of it, I see everything as relational.
Sex is a relationship with your identity, your eroticism, and your sense of play. Love is a relationship with your childhood, your desires, your emotional needs, and your community. Trauma often shows up as a rupture in the relationship you have with your nervous system, your boundaries, or your self-concept.
These overlapping threads between sex, relationships, and trauma have always fascinated me because they are so deeply connected. My passion for this work led me to pursue specialized training in sex therapy, couples therapy, and trauma counselling.
Modalities Used in Therapy
I take a holistic and integrative approach to therapy, drawing from a range of evidence-based and trauma-informed modalities. In my work with individuals, I incorporate Internal Family Systems (IFS), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), attachment-based therapy, somatic therapy, and research-informed practices for addressing various concerns.
My approach to couples therapy is rooted in an combination of frameworks from Gottman Method Couples Therapy, The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Whether I’m working with individuals or couples, my practice is rooted in anti-oppressive, queer-affirming, and feminist frameworks.
Who I Am Outside of The Therapy Room
I’m a better therapist when I’m living a full, messy, joyful life outside the therapy room too. When I’m not in session, you’ll probably find me training Jiu-Jitsu, wandering through the woods, cooking up something chaotic (and hopefully edible), deep into a video game or graphic novel, vibing to R&B, or just hanging out with my friends and partner.
Licensure & Degrees
- Registered Clinical Counsellor, BC Association of Clinical Counsellors
- Certified Sexologist, American Board of Sexology
- Master of Counselling Psychology, Adler University
- Bachelor of Science in Psychology with Management, Heriot-Watt University
Trainings & Professional Development
- The Sexually Competent Therapist (Foundations): Integrating Sex Therapy Into Your Practice — Diana Sadat, RCC, CST
- Orgasm 101 — Diana Sadat, RCC, CST
- Erectile Dysfunction — Paula Leech, LMFT, CST, CSTS
- We’re Just Too Busy: Sensate Focus for Couples — Linda Weiner, MSW, LCSW
- Purity Culture & Sexual Wellbeing — David Carlson, RCC
- Internal Family Systems (IFS) for Trauma, Depression, Addiction & More: Intensive Online Course — Dr. Richard Schwartz & Dr. Frank Anderson
- Nurturing Trans Erotic Embodiments: Re-Visioning Sex Therapy for Every Body — Lucie Fielding, LMHCA
- Desire Discrepancy – Martha Kauppi, LMFT, CST
- When Sex Hurts: Understanding and Addressing Sexual and Pelvic Pain Concerns in Therapy — Diana Sadat, RCC, CST
- Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Trauma-Informed Stabilization Treatment (Level 1) — Dr. Janina Fisher
- Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Training — Alivia Maric, Ph.D. & Eve Wilensky, RCC
- Assessing Violence in Intimate Relationships — Theresa Thomas, RCC
- Gottman Couples Therapy Level 1 — The Gottman Institute
- Sex & Relationships After Baby — Erin Davidson, RCC, CST
- Developmental Approach to Couples Therapy — Sue Diamond, RCC
- Trauma-Informed Care — Ciara Moran, RCC, CST
- Working Towards Anti-Oppression in Counselling — Lusia Ospina, RCC, ATR, LPC
- Working with Sex Workers — Angie Gunn, LCSW, CST; Raquel Savage, MS; Melissa Paulino, LMSW
- Exploring BDSM & Kink as a Healing Practice for Trauma Survivors — Rafaella Smith-Fiallo, LCSW
- Sex Worker Affirmative Therapy — Dr. Eric Sprankle
- Neurodivergence in the Bedroom — Taylor McConnachie, RP, CST
