Blog
Here are my latest blog posts.
Why Can’t I Orgasm When I’m Anxious? A Sex Therapist Explains
For something that’s supposed to feel good, sex can bring up a lot of stress. Especially when anxiety is part of the picture, pleasure can feel distant, and orgasms might seem frustratingly out of reach. If that sounds familiar, you’re definitely not alone. In my work...
Dissociating Out Of Your Sex Life
If you’ve ever found yourself feeling checked out during sex, disconnected from your body, or unsure what you actually like or want, you’re not alone. For many people, dissociation quietly shows up in their sexual lives without being named. It can feel confusing,...
Period Sex: Let’s Have a Real Conversation
Period sex is one of those topics that often comes with awkward jokes, strong opinions, or a lot of quiet curiosity. Some people enjoy sex during their period, some people avoid it completely, and many fall somewhere in between. All of those experiences are valid. For...
Shifting Sexual Performance To Pleasure
Sex is often talked about as something spontaneous, effortless, and natural. But for many people, sex can feel more like a performance than a shared experience. Instead of tuning into your own body, pleasure, and connection, you might find yourself focusing on how you...
From Discomfort to Connection: Sex and Gender Dysphoria
Gender dysphoria can make sex feel complicated, even when there is a lot of care and attraction in the relationship. For many trans, nonbinary, and gender-diverse folks, intimacy can bring up a mix of excitement, worry, and tenderness. You might want closeness, but...
Why Anxiety Messes With Sex
Let’s be real, sex isn’t just about the body. It’s also about the brain. And when your brain is stuck in anxious overdrive, it can be tough to stay connected, relaxed, or even aroused during sex. Whether you're worrying about “doing it right,” lasting long enough,...
When Trauma Makes Sexual Desire Feel Complicated
Sexual trauma can impact more than just the moment it happened. For many people, it ripples into how they relate to their body, their sense of safety, and their experience of sexual desire. If you’ve noticed a shift in your sexual desire after trauma, you’re not...
Why Scheduling Sex Isn’t as Unsexy as It Sounds
Let’s be real that the idea of scheduling sex can sound a little boring. Isn’t sex supposed to be spontaneous, in-the-moment, and full of sparks? Sometimes, sure. But if you’ve ever been in a long-term relationship, had a packed calendar, or just felt totally...
Why Lube Matters: Making Sex More Enjoyable
When it comes to sex, we often focus on communication, consent, and chemistry—but one simple tool that can make a huge difference is often overlooked: lube. Whether you’re having sex with a partner or enjoying solo play, using lubrication can support comfort,...
Slow It Down: Edging & Sexual Pleasure
When it comes to sex and pleasure, we’re often taught to go straight for the finish line. But what if slowing things down could actually make the experience more enjoyable, more connected, and way more satisfying? That’s where edging comes in. Also known as orgasm...
